jolie laide: The Last Time

jolie laide

I started this when I lived in Brooklyn and struggled for grace in a city that grants moments of beauty and ugliness breathtakingly close to one another. Now I live in a place where things are a different kind of ugly and the beauty is pedestrian. I struggle with that.

3.26.2006

The Last Time




Sometimes, the last time you see someone, you don’t know it is the last time. There is no way to predict what life will bring after you part. A bullet. A car accident. A final falling out.

I have not known when would be the last time, with not so many, but an important few. I strain to know, to remember. Was there sadness? Was it just routine? What did their face look like, the shape of their shoulders as they walk away?

It is true, on some level, that I expect to have joy snatched away. So each good-bye is perhaps a little more freighted, as I try hard to remember. Saturday on the street corner, a glorious light and wildly framed by garlands of fake flowers tacked to the fence. Thursday morning, one kiss, another kiss, and I look up into his face and am pinned, as I am on occasion, by the color of his eye, to be held in his regard, the intimacy of the curve of his eyelid. The things I will need to know, can never be enough but will have to be enough, if there is no more.

3 Comments:

Blogger Dr. S said...

This entry is so poignant. It's the not-knowing that always bothers me about watching someone exit my life. What are they doing? What are they feeling? The precipice: maybe I never knew, even when they were around.

11:16 PM  
Blogger argonic said...

An ex-girlfriend in a distant country: I remember seeing her off at the airport and wondering would we ever see each other again. We did -- many times over a few years. Lately, though, she writes and asks if we will meet again. I don't know.

1:15 PM  
Blogger Six Sider said...

It is strange how rarely we truly get to say goodbye.

2:20 PM  

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